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Contact: Linda Gage, VP Marketing/Media Relations
Eagle’s Nest Publications,LLC
Phone: 864-329-0530
Email: pressroom@bellsouth.net
Credit card statements for restaurants you’ve never been to. Phone bills with unexplained long-distance calls. Trips to “the barber” that take…hours? The signs may be subtle or suddenly knock you over with the realization that your partner or husband could be cheating on you. What do you do now? Find out for sure! Bill Mitchell’s new book, The More You Know--Getting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship is a supportive, step-by-step guide that could save your marriage.
“If you suspect, even just a little,” says Mitchell, “that your partner or husband may be cheating on you, you’re living a life of doubt and suspicion that can eat away at you. Any form of adultery puts your life on hold and your finances at risk. You owe it to yourself to find out for sure.”
Mitchell, the “7-Day Detective,” helps you get results in as little as one week.
A licensed private investigator with three decades of experience, he cares about his clients. He helps his clients successfully cope with the reality of infidelity. “What I do in my practice and what I have designed this book to do,” says Mitchell, “is empower women to make decisions, based on fact, that are best for them.”
Whether your partner is starting to wander off or involved in a full-blown affair, it’s better to find out sooner rather than later--and on your terms. Mitchell’s book helps you stay in control, pace yourself, and get the proof you need through an easy, step-by-step action plan.
Mitchell and his work have been featured on the Fox News, Today Show, The Early Show, and Dr. Phil Show. He is heralded by the national media—Ladies Home Journal, Baltimore Sun, Esquire, Chicago Tribune, and more--for his cutting edge and compassionate approach to the crisis of adultery. Mitchell quickly uncovers the truth, wins courtroom decisions, brings closure, and rebuilds lives. The More You Know shows readers how to get the same breakthrough results with the techniques he uses every day.
If you’re living with the pain of not knowing, Mitchell shows you exactly how to quickly take charge of the situation and your life. You’ll learn: what relationships are most at risk, the eight most common warning signs, what to do first and why, insider techniques, investigative strategies that get answers, and--most importantly--how to recover emotionally, financially, and socially.
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Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Monday, July 27, 2009
Best Private Eye in the Business
Press Release
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Mitchell Reports Investigations LLC Receives 2009 Best of Greenville Award
U.S. Commerce Association’s Award Plaque Honors the Achievement
WASHINGTON D.C., June 8, 2009 -- Mitchell Reports Investigations, LLC has been selected for the 2009 Best of Greenville Award in the Detective Agencies category by the U.S. Commerce Association (USCA).
The USCA "Best of Local Business" Award Program recognizes outstanding local businesses throughout the country. Each year, the USCA identifies companies that they believe have achieved exceptional marketing success in their local community and business category. These are local companies that enhance the positive image of small business through service to their customers and community.
Various sources of information were gathered and analyzed to choose the winners in each category. The 2009 USCA Award Program focused on quality, not quantity. Winners are determined based on the information gathered both internally by the USCA and data provided by third parties.
About U.S. Commerce Association (USCA)
U.S. Commerce Association (USCA) is a Washington D.C. based organization funded by local businesses operating in towns, large and small, across America. The purpose of USCA is to promote local business through public relations, marketing and advertising.
The USCA was established to recognize the best of local businesses in their community. Our organization works exclusively with local business owners, trade groups, professional associations, chambers of commerce and other business advertising and marketing groups. Our mission is to be an advocate for small and medium size businesses and business entrepreneurs across America.
SOURCE: U.S. Commerce Association
CONTACT:
U.S. Commerce Association
Email: PublicRelations@us-ca.org
URL: http://www.us-ca.org
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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Mitchell Reports Investigations LLC Receives 2009 Best of Greenville Award
U.S. Commerce Association’s Award Plaque Honors the Achievement
WASHINGTON D.C., June 8, 2009 -- Mitchell Reports Investigations, LLC has been selected for the 2009 Best of Greenville Award in the Detective Agencies category by the U.S. Commerce Association (USCA).
The USCA "Best of Local Business" Award Program recognizes outstanding local businesses throughout the country. Each year, the USCA identifies companies that they believe have achieved exceptional marketing success in their local community and business category. These are local companies that enhance the positive image of small business through service to their customers and community.
Various sources of information were gathered and analyzed to choose the winners in each category. The 2009 USCA Award Program focused on quality, not quantity. Winners are determined based on the information gathered both internally by the USCA and data provided by third parties.
About U.S. Commerce Association (USCA)
U.S. Commerce Association (USCA) is a Washington D.C. based organization funded by local businesses operating in towns, large and small, across America. The purpose of USCA is to promote local business through public relations, marketing and advertising.
The USCA was established to recognize the best of local businesses in their community. Our organization works exclusively with local business owners, trade groups, professional associations, chambers of commerce and other business advertising and marketing groups. Our mission is to be an advocate for small and medium size businesses and business entrepreneurs across America.
SOURCE: U.S. Commerce Association
CONTACT:
U.S. Commerce Association
Email: PublicRelations@us-ca.org
URL: http://www.us-ca.org
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Monday, January 5, 2009
Using a Private Detective to Catch a Cheating Spouse
By Arlene Harder, MA, MFT
Review of The More You Know: Getting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship
If you suspect your spouse is cheating on you, what can you do to prove or disprove your suspicions.
Affairs, whether lasting one night or several months, damage families even if one or both parties pretends it's not really serious, or that no one is hurt if it's kept secret.
At the very least, if a man is cheating on his wife, whether she doesn't know (or chooses not to see the signs of an affair going on right under her nose), she misses out on having an open and deeply committed relationship with the man she's chosen for a partner. He misses out on experiencing a marriage of faithfulness and honesty. Their children miss the opportunity to learn what a committed and loving relationship looks like.
In short, adultery ain't good for your marriage and you're probably reading this page because you have a nagging suspicion your spouse has strayed. But how can you know if your husband or wife is cheating on you (or your partner if you are in a supposedly committed relationship without a marriage license)? Furthermore, what can, and should, you do about your suspicions.?
Hiring a private detective to spy on your spouse is not an action most suspicious wives or husbands take. If they do hire an investigator, they don't do it lightly.
However, after reading The More You Know, you'll be much better prepared to recognize whether your spouse or partner is most likely cheating on you, what to do to protect yourself and your finances, and whether to hire a detective. The author, a private investigator and son of an FBI agent, offers a practical guide to approaching the possibility of an affair. He shares the many ways in which he has helped uncover and prove affairs in hundreds of couples he has seen over the years.
To set the stage for exploring infidelity, in the first chapter Bill Mitchell looks at what kinds of relationships are most at risk. Next, he gives eight signs of adultery. They are:
1. Defensive behavior
2. Changes in affection and sexual activity
3. Financial woes
4. Communication problems
5. Unexplained absences
6. Need to be alone
7. Pattern and lifestyle changes
8. Wardrobe renovation
Any of these, by itself, doesn't mean adultery is occurring or even right around the corner. But satisfying relationships are most often free of these characteristics (except, perhaps, the last, in which case a person may feel their natural sloppiness has prevented moving up the corporate ladder and decide to do something about it).
In any case, as you read examples of each of these, you can access the likelihood that cheating is taking place. You might also decide to take steps to change a rocky relationship so that an affair doesn't occur — for example, by reading and taking to heart suggestions in the articles here in Support4Change for strengthening your marriage to prevent future heartache.
Bill Mitchell's chapter on "Where it All Begins" offers a warning on how to avoid getting into a situation where the potential for an affair can grow into full-fledged adultery. Preventing adultery takes effort. For example, I have a neighbor who has a policy that he doesn't go to lunch alone with a women other than his wife. If there is business to discuss, he will do that in his office or he'll take someone else along to a lunch meeting. As a lawyer, he's seen too many cases of affairs that began very innocently, but concluded with ruined lives.
Of course, there are many places where lovers can rendezvous besides lunch. There are weekends and evenings (a time when investigators are most often hired to do surveillance), days when a spouse and co-worker are both not scheduled to work, before and after work, business trips, etc.
So let's assume you are fairly sure your spouse has been cheating on you, but you want to get proof. It would be nice if you could simply say, "Honey, Betty saw you with a blonde at that roadside cafe last Tuesday when you said you were working late at the office. Explain yourself." And then, in the better of all possible worlds (the best being a world in which no one cheated on anyone), your spouse would say, "I was just meeting with her to plan a very special event for your birthday." And you would believe him because he was telling the truth.
In another scenario he might say, "I've been having an affair for several months and intended to tell you but it slipped my mind. If it bothers you I won't do it again." Then you both kiss and that's the end of that. Yeah, sure. If he had an affair, he has a lot of damage to undo and you have a lot of exploring to see where you want to go from there.
However, given the fact that affairs occur in a climate of secrecy, if he is having an affair, the chances are that not only will he deny it, he'll be more cautious when he next meets with your competition. Further, once warned you're on to him, it's possible he may try to hide financial transactions, so that in a divorce settlement you won't get the money you deserve. A person who cheats by having sex with someone other than his wife is not beyond cheating with his finances.
Consider a case I heard in a lecture on divorce and negotiation in graduate school. The instructor was a woman lawyer who had been a therapist. Her story goes something like this. When her husband, we'll call him Joe, began divorce proceedings, he claimed the large amount of money in their bank account was a loan from his brother, Steve, his partner in business. Since he had to pay it back, he claimed it wasn't an asset.
To prove it was a loan, next to each deposit in the account book he had stamped the notation, "Loan to Joe from Steve." The same stamp appeared on each check Steve had written.
Unfortunately for Joe, his wife went through the drawers of his desk and found a receipt for the stamp used in both instances dated after he filed for divorce. Without that evidence, he could have gotten away with claiming he had much less than he did, and she would have gotten much less in the settlement. Deciding women needed help from jerks like that, she went to law school.
Anyway, back to my review of The More You Know. If you have doubts about your spouse's fidelity and want answers quickly, the book will give you good, practical advice on what you should do, which includes various ways to go beyond suspicions to getting proof.
Before I read this book, I hadn't recommended clients hire a private detective if cheating was suspected. We used therapy techniques that often eventually exposed adultery. However, I now see the advantage of hiring someone like Bill Mitchell.
If you do hire a professional investigator, you may not find evidence of your spouse's cheating in a week, which is the amount of time Bill is often able to gather the necessary proof.
Nevertheless, even if you don't choose to hire a professional, a person trained in surveillance can at least guide you in what you can do on your own. To help you find an investigator, the book includes a list of state agencies that license private investigators, for you wouldn't want to use one who wasn't licensed.
Setting out on the path of checking on a wayward spouse is painful. But it's not any less painful than not knowing the truth, for lies we tell and lies we believe too often destroy relationships beyond the point of repair. The truth may seem harsh if it is not what we want to know, but it's also liberating.
© Copyright 2006, Arlene Harder, MA, MFT
Review of The More You Know: Getting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship
If you suspect your spouse is cheating on you, what can you do to prove or disprove your suspicions.
Affairs, whether lasting one night or several months, damage families even if one or both parties pretends it's not really serious, or that no one is hurt if it's kept secret.
At the very least, if a man is cheating on his wife, whether she doesn't know (or chooses not to see the signs of an affair going on right under her nose), she misses out on having an open and deeply committed relationship with the man she's chosen for a partner. He misses out on experiencing a marriage of faithfulness and honesty. Their children miss the opportunity to learn what a committed and loving relationship looks like.
In short, adultery ain't good for your marriage and you're probably reading this page because you have a nagging suspicion your spouse has strayed. But how can you know if your husband or wife is cheating on you (or your partner if you are in a supposedly committed relationship without a marriage license)? Furthermore, what can, and should, you do about your suspicions.?
Hiring a private detective to spy on your spouse is not an action most suspicious wives or husbands take. If they do hire an investigator, they don't do it lightly.
However, after reading The More You Know, you'll be much better prepared to recognize whether your spouse or partner is most likely cheating on you, what to do to protect yourself and your finances, and whether to hire a detective. The author, a private investigator and son of an FBI agent, offers a practical guide to approaching the possibility of an affair. He shares the many ways in which he has helped uncover and prove affairs in hundreds of couples he has seen over the years.
To set the stage for exploring infidelity, in the first chapter Bill Mitchell looks at what kinds of relationships are most at risk. Next, he gives eight signs of adultery. They are:
1. Defensive behavior
2. Changes in affection and sexual activity
3. Financial woes
4. Communication problems
5. Unexplained absences
6. Need to be alone
7. Pattern and lifestyle changes
8. Wardrobe renovation
Any of these, by itself, doesn't mean adultery is occurring or even right around the corner. But satisfying relationships are most often free of these characteristics (except, perhaps, the last, in which case a person may feel their natural sloppiness has prevented moving up the corporate ladder and decide to do something about it).
In any case, as you read examples of each of these, you can access the likelihood that cheating is taking place. You might also decide to take steps to change a rocky relationship so that an affair doesn't occur — for example, by reading and taking to heart suggestions in the articles here in Support4Change for strengthening your marriage to prevent future heartache.
Bill Mitchell's chapter on "Where it All Begins" offers a warning on how to avoid getting into a situation where the potential for an affair can grow into full-fledged adultery. Preventing adultery takes effort. For example, I have a neighbor who has a policy that he doesn't go to lunch alone with a women other than his wife. If there is business to discuss, he will do that in his office or he'll take someone else along to a lunch meeting. As a lawyer, he's seen too many cases of affairs that began very innocently, but concluded with ruined lives.
Of course, there are many places where lovers can rendezvous besides lunch. There are weekends and evenings (a time when investigators are most often hired to do surveillance), days when a spouse and co-worker are both not scheduled to work, before and after work, business trips, etc.
So let's assume you are fairly sure your spouse has been cheating on you, but you want to get proof. It would be nice if you could simply say, "Honey, Betty saw you with a blonde at that roadside cafe last Tuesday when you said you were working late at the office. Explain yourself." And then, in the better of all possible worlds (the best being a world in which no one cheated on anyone), your spouse would say, "I was just meeting with her to plan a very special event for your birthday." And you would believe him because he was telling the truth.
In another scenario he might say, "I've been having an affair for several months and intended to tell you but it slipped my mind. If it bothers you I won't do it again." Then you both kiss and that's the end of that. Yeah, sure. If he had an affair, he has a lot of damage to undo and you have a lot of exploring to see where you want to go from there.
However, given the fact that affairs occur in a climate of secrecy, if he is having an affair, the chances are that not only will he deny it, he'll be more cautious when he next meets with your competition. Further, once warned you're on to him, it's possible he may try to hide financial transactions, so that in a divorce settlement you won't get the money you deserve. A person who cheats by having sex with someone other than his wife is not beyond cheating with his finances.
Consider a case I heard in a lecture on divorce and negotiation in graduate school. The instructor was a woman lawyer who had been a therapist. Her story goes something like this. When her husband, we'll call him Joe, began divorce proceedings, he claimed the large amount of money in their bank account was a loan from his brother, Steve, his partner in business. Since he had to pay it back, he claimed it wasn't an asset.
To prove it was a loan, next to each deposit in the account book he had stamped the notation, "Loan to Joe from Steve." The same stamp appeared on each check Steve had written.
Unfortunately for Joe, his wife went through the drawers of his desk and found a receipt for the stamp used in both instances dated after he filed for divorce. Without that evidence, he could have gotten away with claiming he had much less than he did, and she would have gotten much less in the settlement. Deciding women needed help from jerks like that, she went to law school.
Anyway, back to my review of The More You Know. If you have doubts about your spouse's fidelity and want answers quickly, the book will give you good, practical advice on what you should do, which includes various ways to go beyond suspicions to getting proof.
Before I read this book, I hadn't recommended clients hire a private detective if cheating was suspected. We used therapy techniques that often eventually exposed adultery. However, I now see the advantage of hiring someone like Bill Mitchell.
If you do hire a professional investigator, you may not find evidence of your spouse's cheating in a week, which is the amount of time Bill is often able to gather the necessary proof.
Nevertheless, even if you don't choose to hire a professional, a person trained in surveillance can at least guide you in what you can do on your own. To help you find an investigator, the book includes a list of state agencies that license private investigators, for you wouldn't want to use one who wasn't licensed.
Setting out on the path of checking on a wayward spouse is painful. But it's not any less painful than not knowing the truth, for lies we tell and lies we believe too often destroy relationships beyond the point of repair. The truth may seem harsh if it is not what we want to know, but it's also liberating.
© Copyright 2006, Arlene Harder, MA, MFT
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Is Your Spouse Cheating Online? (Part One)
Posted on January 11, 2006 by J. Benjamin Stevens
It is with great pleasure that I give you part one of another "guest post" from noted private investigator and author, Bill Mitchell: "Is Your Spouse Cheating Online?" by Bill Mitchell
It's obvious online affairs are prevalent today, so what can you do? This epidemic is causing the breakup of countless marriages. How do you know if your spouse is violating the marriage vows by carrying out an online affair? Let's look at typical indicators I personally discovered while investigating affairs. If your marriage is in trouble, these clues will help you be the judge.
Caution: These clues are not confirmation of an affair; just feasible indicators for you take into account.
1. Your spouse or partner spends excess time online.
Who doesn't use a computer today? I know a few people. They are excellent for paying bills, staying in touch with family, friends, customers, finding street locations, and a host of other productive endeavors. We can not live without them and shutter when a lighting storm threaten our usage. Just look at kids and their instant messaging. They will go without dinner just to keep in touch with their circle of friends. Try to pull them away, it's no easy task. Does your spouse resemble your kid's magnetism to the computer? Discover why this need is so powerful before it's too late.
2. Passwords, instant message "buddy lists," Internet email accounts, and emails are concealed and even protected from you!
Do you find your spouse needing his "own space" at the computer? Is there a real reluctance when you ask to know his passwords? What's there to hide? These questions all have obvious answers. The act of hiding information is deceptive by nature. Of course, those of us who have worked in "Corporate America" understand the need to protect company secrets. But what legitimate "family secret" are we hiding? Listen, any time a spouse becomes secretive with you, it fulfills a direct need they demonstrate. Why? You are like the judge, referee, or source of authority creating that "sense of accountability" over them. Furthermore, they are breaking matrimonial law if committing adultery. There is, in many courts, a price to pay!
3. Computer use after you retire to bed, when you fall asleep, or in the middle of the night.
Have you been awaken by the absence of your spouse at night and found her or him at the computer? If this behavior becomes a pattern, you certainly need to be concerned. While work demands a sense of commitment and loyalty, working late repeatedly after you have fallen asleep is a little odd.
4. Your partner abruptly shuts off the internet and/or computer when you approach.
This is panic and unexplainable behavior. The rationalization is "when all other contingency plans fail, just shut that thing off and don't get caught." This foolish act is also called a "computer crash" and has the potential of damaging both hardware and software. The loss of files can occur when a computer is cut off abruptly. Many spouses have reported this behavior just prior to hiring us. We consider it a significant indicator of a deviant behavior. Now, bear in mind your spouse may be viewing pornography and fear reprisal. This may explain the need for panic.
5. The computer and monitor are always positioned away from your sight. The study of body language has become useful to many investigators, especially those of us who administer lie-detection examinations. An obvious sign of deception and a common mistake the cheater makes is blocking your view. They need the time to clear a screen, turn off the monitor, or change to another Internet page when threatened with exposure. Intentionally turning the monitor or laptop away from view is an indicator they don't want you to see something. Over time, this act develops into a habit and confers greater freedom from detection. In most instances, having the lead time to hide the truth from you is all they need.
To Be Continued ....
Copyright Bill Mitchell 2005. All rights reserved. William F. (Bill) Mitchell, Jr., Seven-Day Detective, is an internationally renowned author who is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies to marriages facing infidelity. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Mr. Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV and national talk shows including Dr. Phil, FoxNews, Today Show, and The Early Show. He has been interviewed by numerous publications including Chicago Tribune, Esquire, New York Post, Ladies Home Journal Online, and PI Magazine.
Mr. Mitchell is the author of two books including Adultery: Facing Its Reality and The More You Know - Getting the evidence and support you need to investigate a troubled relationship. Mr. Mitchell is a licensed private investigator in South Carolina. He was formerly licensed in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Maryland and District of Columbia. His education includes training by the Department of Defense, Dektor Counterintelligence, New Jersey State Police, and various insurance claims organizations. Mr. Mitchell is a member of National Association of Investigative Specialists, Alliance of Investigators and Security Specialists, Carolina Organized Retail Theft Task Force, and Piedmont Claims Association. Mr. Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, received a B.A. in Psychology from Mt. St. Mary's University. He lives in Greenville, South Carolina with his wife, three daughters, and a son.
It is with great pleasure that I give you part one of another "guest post" from noted private investigator and author, Bill Mitchell: "Is Your Spouse Cheating Online?" by Bill Mitchell
It's obvious online affairs are prevalent today, so what can you do? This epidemic is causing the breakup of countless marriages. How do you know if your spouse is violating the marriage vows by carrying out an online affair? Let's look at typical indicators I personally discovered while investigating affairs. If your marriage is in trouble, these clues will help you be the judge.
Caution: These clues are not confirmation of an affair; just feasible indicators for you take into account.
1. Your spouse or partner spends excess time online.
Who doesn't use a computer today? I know a few people. They are excellent for paying bills, staying in touch with family, friends, customers, finding street locations, and a host of other productive endeavors. We can not live without them and shutter when a lighting storm threaten our usage. Just look at kids and their instant messaging. They will go without dinner just to keep in touch with their circle of friends. Try to pull them away, it's no easy task. Does your spouse resemble your kid's magnetism to the computer? Discover why this need is so powerful before it's too late.
2. Passwords, instant message "buddy lists," Internet email accounts, and emails are concealed and even protected from you!
Do you find your spouse needing his "own space" at the computer? Is there a real reluctance when you ask to know his passwords? What's there to hide? These questions all have obvious answers. The act of hiding information is deceptive by nature. Of course, those of us who have worked in "Corporate America" understand the need to protect company secrets. But what legitimate "family secret" are we hiding? Listen, any time a spouse becomes secretive with you, it fulfills a direct need they demonstrate. Why? You are like the judge, referee, or source of authority creating that "sense of accountability" over them. Furthermore, they are breaking matrimonial law if committing adultery. There is, in many courts, a price to pay!
3. Computer use after you retire to bed, when you fall asleep, or in the middle of the night.
Have you been awaken by the absence of your spouse at night and found her or him at the computer? If this behavior becomes a pattern, you certainly need to be concerned. While work demands a sense of commitment and loyalty, working late repeatedly after you have fallen asleep is a little odd.
4. Your partner abruptly shuts off the internet and/or computer when you approach.
This is panic and unexplainable behavior. The rationalization is "when all other contingency plans fail, just shut that thing off and don't get caught." This foolish act is also called a "computer crash" and has the potential of damaging both hardware and software. The loss of files can occur when a computer is cut off abruptly. Many spouses have reported this behavior just prior to hiring us. We consider it a significant indicator of a deviant behavior. Now, bear in mind your spouse may be viewing pornography and fear reprisal. This may explain the need for panic.
5. The computer and monitor are always positioned away from your sight. The study of body language has become useful to many investigators, especially those of us who administer lie-detection examinations. An obvious sign of deception and a common mistake the cheater makes is blocking your view. They need the time to clear a screen, turn off the monitor, or change to another Internet page when threatened with exposure. Intentionally turning the monitor or laptop away from view is an indicator they don't want you to see something. Over time, this act develops into a habit and confers greater freedom from detection. In most instances, having the lead time to hide the truth from you is all they need.
To Be Continued ....
Copyright Bill Mitchell 2005. All rights reserved. William F. (Bill) Mitchell, Jr., Seven-Day Detective, is an internationally renowned author who is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies to marriages facing infidelity. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Mr. Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV and national talk shows including Dr. Phil, FoxNews, Today Show, and The Early Show. He has been interviewed by numerous publications including Chicago Tribune, Esquire, New York Post, Ladies Home Journal Online, and PI Magazine.
Mr. Mitchell is the author of two books including Adultery: Facing Its Reality and The More You Know - Getting the evidence and support you need to investigate a troubled relationship. Mr. Mitchell is a licensed private investigator in South Carolina. He was formerly licensed in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Maryland and District of Columbia. His education includes training by the Department of Defense, Dektor Counterintelligence, New Jersey State Police, and various insurance claims organizations. Mr. Mitchell is a member of National Association of Investigative Specialists, Alliance of Investigators and Security Specialists, Carolina Organized Retail Theft Task Force, and Piedmont Claims Association. Mr. Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, received a B.A. in Psychology from Mt. St. Mary's University. He lives in Greenville, South Carolina with his wife, three daughters, and a son.
How to Discover an Affair
Posted on December 27, 2005 by J. Benjamin Stevens
Over the past few months, I have gotten to know private investigator extraordinaire Bill Mitchell, who today has the distinct honor of making the first "guest post" on my blog. This post is very insightful, and I hope you will enjoy it. Without any further adieu, here it is:
"DENY, DENY, DENY THE AFFAIR -- Take action and get the bottom of an affair with these Ten Valuable Steps!" by Bill Mitchell.
For almost forty years I've heard this theme played over and over again, like a top 40 hit. As an investigator I heard clients tell this almost everyday. Here's what they tell me? "My husband says he's not seeing someone." But he can't explain exactly where he was last night. Not only that, his clothes seemed of ladies perfume. The golf clubs are clean as a whistle but he claims to have played around with buddies from work.
This is a typical scenario for the private investigator's initial consultation. I'll open a file, ask lots of questions, and notes but all often hear this reoccurring theme. They ask for the truth but never get it. So where does that leave you? Are chasing down dead-ends? What can you do for yourself and not turn up empty handed like my clients?What do they deny?
Where they have been without you. Why they need to be alone. Any details to support their activities. If they are cheating. If they are having sex with someone else. How long they have been in an affair. Any truthful information about their secret life.
So, what can you do to overcome these obstacles?
The first rule I insist upon is: "Stop asking questions."
Why?
It is instinctive behavior to deny the facts, especially when they tell the truth. If you believe you can ask pointed questions of a cheater and receive volumes of incriminating information - forget it. This scenario only happens in fiction novels. The last time I faced a murderer offering to help that would get to him a fair trial, he lied. The last time I conducted a lie detection exam for a suspecting employee in a theft case, he lied to me. The last time I asked an insurance fraud scam artist to confess, he lied.
The second rule is: "Get organized."
You can help yourself by organizing your information. Start with a diary. Using a daily journal is very helpful. Focus on excuses, times, events, days of the week, or any tidbits of information you come across. Include what you heard, saw or discovered each day. This is called "layering".
Third Rule is: "Search for obvious clues."
Places to look are in your records of credit charges, phone bills, gas card charges, check accounts, savings accounts. Too often early discover of an affair slips away because spouse feel like spying is wrong. Adultery is wrong so feel justified if you need to look.
Fourth Rule is: "Track mileage daily."
Our society is driven and so are cheating spouses. They rendezvous. Trips to and from work, church, play or illegitimate activities reveal the length incurred. Take advantage of this simple step. Take the time to record in your daily or another form of record keeping vehicle usage. It's a great short cut!
Fifth Rule is: "Look for Deceptive Behavior."
As a general rule, most cheating spouses exhibit deceptive behavior. They make the simplest tasks same so complicated. A trip to store takes excessive amount of time. No receipt, no proof of purchase, and lots of excuses.
Sixth Rule is: "Remove any weapons from the home."
Emotions never run any hotter than during an affair. Cheating spouses may turn on you like a flash fire. Handguns are the deadliest enemy you could face so hide them.
Seventh Rule is: "Analyze your financial exposure and end the risks."
Cancel credit cards, lines of credit or any form of financial risk you might incur until things settle down. You can notify in writing those institutions you feel might burden you with bills never consented to.
Eighth Rule is: "Act as if nothing is wrong, but encourage counseling."
Just remember counseling will fail if your spouse is dragged there. In fact you might even find this option a pre-destined failure if your spouse is looking for a way to show you how.
Ninth Rule is: “Don't try to stop the affair - look to prove it."
Proof dictates the future in most relationships. When you know all the details, denial anticipated, a cheating spouse is a captive audience. Seek this empowerment wholeheartedly to end the deception. When you have facts your choices are numerous.
Tenth Rule is: "Plan for the worst, but hope for the best!"
Optimism is the best policy to employ given the circumstances. You may be wrong and seemingly obvious affair may have never happened. Be careful to keep a positive attitude or you may compounded the problems in your life.
Copyright Bill Mitchell 2005. All rights reserved.
William F. (Bill) Mitchell, Jr., Seven-Day Detective, is an internationally renowned author who is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies to marriages facing infidelity. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Mr. Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV and national talk shows including Dr. Phil, FoxNews, Today Show, and The Early Show. He has been interviewed by numerous publications including Chicago Tribune, Esquire, New York Post, Ladies Home Journal Online, and PI Magazine. Mr. Mitchell is the author of two books including Adultery: Facing Its Reality and The More You Know - Getting the evidence and support you need to investigate a troubled relationship.
Mr. Mitchell is a licensed private investigator in South Carolina. He was formerly licensed in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Maryland and District of Columbia. His education includes training by the Department of Defense, Dektor Counterintelligence, New Jersey State Police, and various insurance claims organizations. Mr. Mitchell is a member of National Association of Investigative Specialists, Alliance of Investigators and Security Specialists, Carolina Organized Retail Theft Task Force, and Piedmont Claims Association. Mr. Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, received a B.A. in Psychology from Mt. St. Mary's University. He lives in Greenville, South Carolina with his wife, three daughters, and a son.
Over the past few months, I have gotten to know private investigator extraordinaire Bill Mitchell, who today has the distinct honor of making the first "guest post" on my blog. This post is very insightful, and I hope you will enjoy it. Without any further adieu, here it is:
"DENY, DENY, DENY THE AFFAIR -- Take action and get the bottom of an affair with these Ten Valuable Steps!" by Bill Mitchell.
For almost forty years I've heard this theme played over and over again, like a top 40 hit. As an investigator I heard clients tell this almost everyday. Here's what they tell me? "My husband says he's not seeing someone." But he can't explain exactly where he was last night. Not only that, his clothes seemed of ladies perfume. The golf clubs are clean as a whistle but he claims to have played around with buddies from work.
This is a typical scenario for the private investigator's initial consultation. I'll open a file, ask lots of questions, and notes but all often hear this reoccurring theme. They ask for the truth but never get it. So where does that leave you? Are chasing down dead-ends? What can you do for yourself and not turn up empty handed like my clients?What do they deny?
Where they have been without you. Why they need to be alone. Any details to support their activities. If they are cheating. If they are having sex with someone else. How long they have been in an affair. Any truthful information about their secret life.
So, what can you do to overcome these obstacles?
The first rule I insist upon is: "Stop asking questions."
Why?
It is instinctive behavior to deny the facts, especially when they tell the truth. If you believe you can ask pointed questions of a cheater and receive volumes of incriminating information - forget it. This scenario only happens in fiction novels. The last time I faced a murderer offering to help that would get to him a fair trial, he lied. The last time I conducted a lie detection exam for a suspecting employee in a theft case, he lied to me. The last time I asked an insurance fraud scam artist to confess, he lied.
The second rule is: "Get organized."
You can help yourself by organizing your information. Start with a diary. Using a daily journal is very helpful. Focus on excuses, times, events, days of the week, or any tidbits of information you come across. Include what you heard, saw or discovered each day. This is called "layering".
Third Rule is: "Search for obvious clues."
Places to look are in your records of credit charges, phone bills, gas card charges, check accounts, savings accounts. Too often early discover of an affair slips away because spouse feel like spying is wrong. Adultery is wrong so feel justified if you need to look.
Fourth Rule is: "Track mileage daily."
Our society is driven and so are cheating spouses. They rendezvous. Trips to and from work, church, play or illegitimate activities reveal the length incurred. Take advantage of this simple step. Take the time to record in your daily or another form of record keeping vehicle usage. It's a great short cut!
Fifth Rule is: "Look for Deceptive Behavior."
As a general rule, most cheating spouses exhibit deceptive behavior. They make the simplest tasks same so complicated. A trip to store takes excessive amount of time. No receipt, no proof of purchase, and lots of excuses.
Sixth Rule is: "Remove any weapons from the home."
Emotions never run any hotter than during an affair. Cheating spouses may turn on you like a flash fire. Handguns are the deadliest enemy you could face so hide them.
Seventh Rule is: "Analyze your financial exposure and end the risks."
Cancel credit cards, lines of credit or any form of financial risk you might incur until things settle down. You can notify in writing those institutions you feel might burden you with bills never consented to.
Eighth Rule is: "Act as if nothing is wrong, but encourage counseling."
Just remember counseling will fail if your spouse is dragged there. In fact you might even find this option a pre-destined failure if your spouse is looking for a way to show you how.
Ninth Rule is: “Don't try to stop the affair - look to prove it."
Proof dictates the future in most relationships. When you know all the details, denial anticipated, a cheating spouse is a captive audience. Seek this empowerment wholeheartedly to end the deception. When you have facts your choices are numerous.
Tenth Rule is: "Plan for the worst, but hope for the best!"
Optimism is the best policy to employ given the circumstances. You may be wrong and seemingly obvious affair may have never happened. Be careful to keep a positive attitude or you may compounded the problems in your life.
Copyright Bill Mitchell 2005. All rights reserved.
William F. (Bill) Mitchell, Jr., Seven-Day Detective, is an internationally renowned author who is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies to marriages facing infidelity. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Mr. Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV and national talk shows including Dr. Phil, FoxNews, Today Show, and The Early Show. He has been interviewed by numerous publications including Chicago Tribune, Esquire, New York Post, Ladies Home Journal Online, and PI Magazine. Mr. Mitchell is the author of two books including Adultery: Facing Its Reality and The More You Know - Getting the evidence and support you need to investigate a troubled relationship.
Mr. Mitchell is a licensed private investigator in South Carolina. He was formerly licensed in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Maryland and District of Columbia. His education includes training by the Department of Defense, Dektor Counterintelligence, New Jersey State Police, and various insurance claims organizations. Mr. Mitchell is a member of National Association of Investigative Specialists, Alliance of Investigators and Security Specialists, Carolina Organized Retail Theft Task Force, and Piedmont Claims Association. Mr. Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, received a B.A. in Psychology from Mt. St. Mary's University. He lives in Greenville, South Carolina with his wife, three daughters, and a son.
Is Your Spouse Cheating Online? (Part Two)
Today, I am pleased to present the conclusion of yesterday's "guest post" from noted private investigator and author, Bill Mitchell: "Is Your Spouse Cheating Online?"
6. Clears all Internet history after chat sessions and/or usage or installs software to automatically rid this information.
There are times when a computer becomes filled with unwanted files. Computers run faster when less "temporary" files use up valuable "RAM memory." This is prudent maintenance for any computer user. What I am referring to in this sign is the repeated habit of purposefully clearing information from discovery. While this information is retrievable through the science of Computer Forensics, you won't find it readily available. On the market now is software that actually helps the cheater. The actual purpose of this new software tool is to hide any trace of computer internet usage. Do you find this a little suspicious? I do.
7. Exhibits a compulsive need to be online and seems defensive when confronted to stop.
"When are you coming to bed?" "We really need to go, now, what's taking so long?" "Can't you do that later?" Have you asked these types of questions? Teenagers often become "obsessed" with instant messaging. If you have kids who use the computer, you know. They have trouble walking away from the PC. This same desire or need displayed by your spouse is cause for alarm. A compulsive, defensive pattern of behavior shows a strong need to continue. You need to know why.
8. Shares personal information, photos or events with strangers in emails, chatrooms, or while instant messaging.
Setting up a profile for instant messaging is commonplace. Kids love to fill them up and share with friends on the buddy list. I've witnessed spouses who send nude pictures of themselves over the Internet. They share very personal information that should be reserved to the marital home. Maybe it's time to track this information with software that collects this data. Today more courts are allowing emails and computer usage data as evidence. It's advisable to consult an attorney in your state beforehand!
9. Plays online games and frequents "personals" chatrooms.
This is where it starts. Play a few games, win or lose, but then we need to chat. Well, if chatting is fine, why not include your spouse? You can't, so why do it?
10. Exhibits the eight warning signs illustrated in The More You Know--Getting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship (available here).Thirty plus years of investigative experience is poured into this new release. It's a "must have" resource guide for every woman's personal library.
Copyright Bill Mitchell 2005. All rights reserved.
William F. (Bill) Mitchell, Jr., Seven-Day Detective, is an internationally renowned author who is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies to marriages facing infidelity. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Mr. Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV and national talk shows including Dr. Phil, FoxNews, Today Show, and The Early Show. He has been interviewed by numerous publications including Chicago Tribune, Esquire, New York Post, Ladies Home Journal Online, and PI Magazine. Mr. Mitchell is the author of two books including Adultery: Facing Its Reality and The More You Know - Getting the evidence and support you need to investigate a troubled relationship.
Mr. Mitchell is a licensed private investigator in South Carolina. He was formerly licensed in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Maryland and District of Columbia. His education includes training by the Department of Defense, Dektor Counterintelligence, New Jersey State Police, and various insurance claims organizations. Mr. Mitchell is a member of National Association of Investigative Specialists, Alliance of Investigators and Security Specialists, Carolina Organized Retail Theft Task Force, and Piedmont Claims Association. Mr. Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, received a B.A. in Psychology from Mt. St. Mary's University. He lives in Greenville, South Carolina with his wife, three daughters, and a son.
6. Clears all Internet history after chat sessions and/or usage or installs software to automatically rid this information.
There are times when a computer becomes filled with unwanted files. Computers run faster when less "temporary" files use up valuable "RAM memory." This is prudent maintenance for any computer user. What I am referring to in this sign is the repeated habit of purposefully clearing information from discovery. While this information is retrievable through the science of Computer Forensics, you won't find it readily available. On the market now is software that actually helps the cheater. The actual purpose of this new software tool is to hide any trace of computer internet usage. Do you find this a little suspicious? I do.
7. Exhibits a compulsive need to be online and seems defensive when confronted to stop.
"When are you coming to bed?" "We really need to go, now, what's taking so long?" "Can't you do that later?" Have you asked these types of questions? Teenagers often become "obsessed" with instant messaging. If you have kids who use the computer, you know. They have trouble walking away from the PC. This same desire or need displayed by your spouse is cause for alarm. A compulsive, defensive pattern of behavior shows a strong need to continue. You need to know why.
8. Shares personal information, photos or events with strangers in emails, chatrooms, or while instant messaging.
Setting up a profile for instant messaging is commonplace. Kids love to fill them up and share with friends on the buddy list. I've witnessed spouses who send nude pictures of themselves over the Internet. They share very personal information that should be reserved to the marital home. Maybe it's time to track this information with software that collects this data. Today more courts are allowing emails and computer usage data as evidence. It's advisable to consult an attorney in your state beforehand!
9. Plays online games and frequents "personals" chatrooms.
This is where it starts. Play a few games, win or lose, but then we need to chat. Well, if chatting is fine, why not include your spouse? You can't, so why do it?
10. Exhibits the eight warning signs illustrated in The More You Know--Getting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship (available here).Thirty plus years of investigative experience is poured into this new release. It's a "must have" resource guide for every woman's personal library.
Copyright Bill Mitchell 2005. All rights reserved.
William F. (Bill) Mitchell, Jr., Seven-Day Detective, is an internationally renowned author who is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies to marriages facing infidelity. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Mr. Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV and national talk shows including Dr. Phil, FoxNews, Today Show, and The Early Show. He has been interviewed by numerous publications including Chicago Tribune, Esquire, New York Post, Ladies Home Journal Online, and PI Magazine. Mr. Mitchell is the author of two books including Adultery: Facing Its Reality and The More You Know - Getting the evidence and support you need to investigate a troubled relationship.
Mr. Mitchell is a licensed private investigator in South Carolina. He was formerly licensed in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Maryland and District of Columbia. His education includes training by the Department of Defense, Dektor Counterintelligence, New Jersey State Police, and various insurance claims organizations. Mr. Mitchell is a member of National Association of Investigative Specialists, Alliance of Investigators and Security Specialists, Carolina Organized Retail Theft Task Force, and Piedmont Claims Association. Mr. Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, received a B.A. in Psychology from Mt. St. Mary's University. He lives in Greenville, South Carolina with his wife, three daughters, and a son.
Best Private Eye in the Business
Bill Mitchell, son of a FBI agent (GBoy) under J. Edgar Hoover, carries on the professional legacy of his father who owned one of the largest private investigative agencies in America. The business of investigating is a family tradition for the Mitchell's who worked the Greater Philadelphia, Washington, D.C., Richmond, Baltimore, MD coast line for decades.
Bill Mitchell hails from Greenville, SC today but spends much of his time across the United States on assignments.
To interview Bill call (800) 785-2425 or email him at billmitchellpi@bellsouth.net.
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