Is Your Spouse Cheating Online? (Part Two)

Today, I am pleased to present the conclusion of yesterday's "guest post" from noted private investigator and author, Bill Mitchell: "Is Your Spouse Cheating Online?"

6. Clears all Internet history after chat sessions and/or usage or installs software to automatically rid this information.

There are times when a computer becomes filled with unwanted files. Computers run faster when less "temporary" files use up valuable "RAM memory." This is prudent maintenance for any computer user. What I am referring to in this sign is the repeated habit of purposefully clearing information from discovery. While this information is retrievable through the science of Computer Forensics, you won't find it readily available. On the market now is software that actually helps the cheater. The actual purpose of this new software tool is to hide any trace of computer internet usage. Do you find this a little suspicious? I do.

7. Exhibits a compulsive need to be online and seems defensive when confronted to stop.

"When are you coming to bed?" "We really need to go, now, what's taking so long?" "Can't you do that later?" Have you asked these types of questions? Teenagers often become "obsessed" with instant messaging. If you have kids who use the computer, you know. They have trouble walking away from the PC. This same desire or need displayed by your spouse is cause for alarm. A compulsive, defensive pattern of behavior shows a strong need to continue. You need to know why.

8. Shares personal information, photos or events with strangers in emails, chatrooms, or while instant messaging.

Setting up a profile for instant messaging is commonplace. Kids love to fill them up and share with friends on the buddy list. I've witnessed spouses who send nude pictures of themselves over the Internet. They share very personal information that should be reserved to the marital home. Maybe it's time to track this information with software that collects this data. Today more courts are allowing emails and computer usage data as evidence. It's advisable to consult an attorney in your state beforehand!

9. Plays online games and frequents "personals" chatrooms.

This is where it starts. Play a few games, win or lose, but then we need to chat. Well, if chatting is fine, why not include your spouse? You can't, so why do it?

10. Exhibits the eight warning signs illustrated in The More You Know--Getting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship (available here).Thirty plus years of investigative experience is poured into this new release. It's a "must have" resource guide for every woman's personal library.

Copyright Bill Mitchell 2005. All rights reserved.

William F. (Bill) Mitchell, Jr., Seven-Day Detective, is an internationally renowned author who is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies to marriages facing infidelity. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Mr. Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV and national talk shows including Dr. Phil, FoxNews, Today Show, and The Early Show. He has been interviewed by numerous publications including Chicago Tribune, Esquire, New York Post, Ladies Home Journal Online, and PI Magazine. Mr. Mitchell is the author of two books including Adultery: Facing Its Reality and The More You Know - Getting the evidence and support you need to investigate a troubled relationship.

Mr. Mitchell is a licensed private investigator in South Carolina. He was formerly licensed in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Maryland and District of Columbia. His education includes training by the Department of Defense, Dektor Counterintelligence, New Jersey State Police, and various insurance claims organizations. Mr. Mitchell is a member of National Association of Investigative Specialists, Alliance of Investigators and Security Specialists, Carolina Organized Retail Theft Task Force, and Piedmont Claims Association. Mr. Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, received a B.A. in Psychology from Mt. St. Mary's University. He lives in Greenville, South Carolina with his wife, three daughters, and a son.